I have written about the sometimes extensive correspondence I had with some potential spanking partners. We both understood in detail how our meeting would unfold. The part I never knew beforehand was how she would dress.
Women put a lot of thought into such. I appreciated it.
No reason at all for her to do this, but to show how she was dressed to be spanked.
This young lady went full school girl for our first meeting. Bacall and I went to her home. She said her husband was on board with me spanking her. But he silently blew a gasket when he saw how she was dressed. Bacall took him for a walk while I attended to her. Divorce followed soon after.
She knows the routine.
the young divorceé couldn’t be spanked by her husband?
He would not. Hence, she looked elsewhere.
This is a common theme and occurred in my own life. This isn’t something that goes away, it just becomes more intense as we age. She may have hoped she could convince him to see how important it is to her, and how well you and Bacall fit together. I hope she found that special someone eventually.
I was never privy to what she said to convince him. He made some effort, but was repulsed by the whole thing. He came to a party with her. He sat in a corner all evening while she played. I don’t think either of them knew how to communicate.
It sure sounds like that. Good clear communication is not easy, and I am sure it was difficult for them both. I’ve often said, if I had things to do over, I would have discussed it clearly within the first few dates and part as friends if we weren’t a match. It would have saved my ex and I a lot of disappointment and time.
Yes, make your interest in spanking known right away. You don’t have to get specific, just in general. If she seems OK with it, you can get more specific in time.
It’s much easier if you only want to spank her. If you want her to spank you that may prove to be problematic, No matter what, keep it fun.
I am sorry I will have to disagree. I have had more partners who were initially only into topping and or into switching. Then women who wanted only to be spanked
OK, I have been blessed. I am only going on the experiences of other men who found getting a spanker was difficult.
There was another gal who left her husband to experience spanking. She came to parties for about two years. Then went back to her husband. She said something like she had gotten it out of her system. He welcomed her back, and they have been happy together ever since. Bacall keeps up with her,
There is a lot more than just spanking to a relationship. The breakup occurs when there is no longer communication. It could be they felt what she gained was not worth what was lost. I am so glad to hear they are Happy Together.
Do not have your vast experience. For us a long nightgown with nothing underneath is the usual apparel. It allows the decks to be quickly cleared for action with nothing in the way.
Don’t confuse experience with being the recipient of women playing out their fantasies.
I tried to get my g/f to dress like a nun– she wasnt in to it
thank you lord for the spanking I am about to receive
A gal wanted me to dress as a priest. She had tried to get a priest to spank her in HS. I did not take the trouble of wearing a collar backwards but told her to think I was a priest and paddled her.
I would definitely dress as a priest, to spank my g/f I am laughing just thinking about it, this gal doesn’t look like it, but she can spank
How do you know she can spank? Is she a friend? A pro?
Actually, She does look like she could give a surprisingly good spanking. IS she still around dishing out spankings?
No reason for ‘spanking-wear’ to be different in desired effect than a woman wearing matching bra and panties, right? Dress for success…
I’ve known personally, read about, and heard of Spanko’s over the years who walked away or claimed to set spanking desires aside. Have to say I have my doubts; not that one could physically do so, but that they could emotionally be happy having to make that choice.
I think it’s different. She has worn matching bra and panties before but for a different reason. This is a first time. Everything. she has on is carefully considered.
In the case I cited, she was and is emotionally happy.
A single guy came to his last spanking party. He was going to marry a vanilla in a week or so. I don’t know what happened, but I doubt he was able to go vanilla,
You can almost read her lips ” Oh my God” as she is turning around and bending over panties down