Our Bottoms Burn

Leaving the Pick Your Spanker poll open until sunset today allows time for all to cast their ballot.

The second edition of some correspondence from a dear friend. In most cases, she is responding to something I wrote. I can work out what I wrote. I hope you can also.

Thank you kind sir, but I know my rear end is definitely more fleshy and padded than 20 years ago, but I can live with it.  I’ve found the best way to respond to those who think we should all look like 18 year olds is a simple “Look in the mirror, Jerk!”  They never know how to accept their own short comings.

New Orleans is an old city and there’s lots to see and explore, but some of the areas you don’t even want to get out of your car and walk its so filthy. I always wanted to go there during Mardi Gras, but after seeing Bourbon St. in the light of day, I don’t think I’d want to be there after dark!     We’ve never been to Lafayette, that will have to go on our next trip west. We’ve spent different times around Gulfport and Bay St. Louis MS, but not much in Louisiana.

I got switched as a kid too and those aren’t the best memories, but every once in awhile there is an itch to feel it across my bare backside again. Its very stingy and intense, but it doesn’t leave a lot of lasting marks. I have never been caned, but its on my bucket list to one day get an actual caning. When I see the marks its leaves in photos it scares the hell out of me, but I still want to try it. When my husband and I play its very sexual and not disciplinary. He spanks me, but there’s a lot more ‘touchy/feely’ stuff going on than actual spanking. I’m sure you and Bacall play the same way at times.

Hi,    OK, catch up time again!   Really, there is a book called Cooking In The Nude? Maybe I’ll have to find a copy, it would make fixing dinner a lot more fun!  LOL  Hot grease is frying, but anything hot is not so good if you’re nude. Way too many sensitive parts out there with out any covering.    There are as many recipes for gumbo as there are people making it. Its all in the individual’s taste what they put in it. Roux will thicken and add a little flavor, but just adding a bit of flour will thicken most soups and stews just as well. We like a combination of flavors so we use a lot of everything, sausage, shrimp, oysters, crab, and chicken. Instead of all rice we’ll mix it up half and half with Barley. It adds a little more substance to it and give it a sort of nutty flavor, but its very deceptive. Try Italian sausage, or Hot Italian if you like it spicier.    

He was a jerk, and no girl deserves to be raped, but I deserved to have my butt whipped for putting myself in that situation. It could have been a lot worse.    

I think everyone has an aversion to exercise, but we force ourselves for health and reasons of vanity. I think it would work if you consider that Bacall could make a woman stop smoking, then a good, sound spanking should motivate others to exercise and lose weight, or break other bad habits. It might take a few more paddlings, but after awhile the consequences would be a worse alternative.      

I don’t know how men think, but for adult women, I would say over 90% of our spankings are purposely brought on. We won’t admit we want a ‘damn good spanking’ so we’ll tease or misbehave until we get it. I was like that when I was younger, I thought there had to be a reason. Now I’m more comfortable just telling my mentors I need to be spanked. I don’t need to act out, or role play to be satisfied, just put me over a knee and spank me until I’m bawling. Its emotional, but its also very sexual. 

I’ve tried self spanking, and it doesn’t work for me. I have a rather low pain tolerance, especially to self-inflicted pain. I might get one or two nice swats in, but then I ask myself why am I doing this. I want someone else to take me past the point of tears and pleading because I know I can’t do it myself.    

No brothers or sisters, and no nieces or nephews. I think there are good and not so good aspects to being an only child, but I’m glad I have my two sisters. Yeah, there was our share of sibling rivalry when we were teens, but we’re very close as adults, and I adore my nieces and nephews, even if they can be brats at times.    

I think you may be spoiled when you look for beautiful women because you have Bacall on your arm. She’s very beautiful, and I hope you tell her that often. Besides, who says a woman has to dress up to look nice?  A pair of snug blue jeans and a plain old work shirt can look pretty good on some women, and if you spent a day in heels you’d know why we don’t wear them all the time!     

Music:  I love Dolly, not only for her music, but she has such a down home personality too. Yes, I like Juice Newton, and a lot of others so the list is long. If you listen to Quarterflash and Heart close together you can tell the difference. Rindi Ross’s voice is has just a touch of rasp and is huskier than Ann Wilson’s. Both are fantastic in my book. Good music doesn’t go out of style because its older. Elvis had a fantastic voice, and you instantly know its him singing. His voice is unique and nobody else sounds like him. So many singers have died young, it makes me wonder where music would be if they had lived. Buddy Holly, Richie Valenz, Jim Morrison, Janice Joplin, Jimmi Hendrix.  They would have rewritten the music history book.    Have a great week,    Beth

Bogey,    I won’t argue about college girls with you because I’m kind of the same way in that I couldn’t see myself sexually involved with a man still in college. I just know from my own experience in the discipline aspect, college girls by and large need real spankings far more than women my age.    

In regards to ‘letting go’, I think its less a sense of sexual vulnerability with another woman than trying to prove anything. If I’m getting a real spanking I’m going to cry and struggle because it hurts. I make no attempt to grit my teeth and stoically take it, that’s not my natural instinct.    

Slower paddlings are definitely more erotic and sexual, but that’s maybe why they don’t ‘feel’ disciplinary to me. I grew up with the short, furious hairbrush smacking my bare bottom when I was naughty so its sort of ingrained that’s how punishment is dished out.    You can’t have a memory of something if you didn’t see it.  Maybe if you ask them nice, they’ll do an encore performance for you.  LOL  The fast and furious spankings seldom last as long as the slower and more deliberate ones, but the effect is so much more overwhelming because of its suddenness. A woman doesn’t have a chance to catch her breath and process the pain of each swat. They’re just continuous and quickly seem unbearable and unending, so we give up and just bawl because there’s nothing else we can do. And for being at ease, I’m not sure I ever feel that way if I know a spanking is going to be disciplinary. I’m going to be nervous and apprehensive no matter who is putting me over their knee, but then naughty girls are supposed to have a healthy fear of bare-bottom discipline. That’s part of what makes it so damn intriguing and erotic. LOL    You and Bacall have a wonderful week!  Question: Who gets the remote when you’re dining out?       Beth

Have you got something against college girls?  Do you think its because you view spankings with a sexual aspect, and not disciplinary?  Most men seem to like the idea from their comments to Skylar and St J Girl, but one man said it would feel like spanking his granddaughter. He didn’t elaborate, but it seemed the sexual aspect was part of it.

How have I picked boyfriends?  I will admit their physical looks usually gets them a second glance, but until I meet and get to know them, looks alone wouldn’t get them a date. Sorry, I couldn’t date a ‘big gorgeous hunk’ just because he looked great. We have to have common interests and thoughts, and he has to be intelligent enough to carry on an interesting conversation. I don’t know if I would ‘let go’ more easily with a woman, I haven’t had enough experience to make that call. If I know her fairly well, then I feel more comfortable over a woman’s knee, but its more to do with feeling as if we’re equals and not submissive to a male. Most of it for me is just my comfort level. I have no problem letting go with my mentors because I trust them, so I can let the whole emotional aspect take over. It may be because of how you spank also. Its much more difficult not to let go if a spanking is fast and furious because it overwhelms the senses so much faster. Everyone is different and has their own agenda when spanking, or being spanked so you can’t pigeonhole everyone in groups. BTW, that must have been quite a paddling if Bacall cured her of smoking with one spanking!  Hmmm, maybe I wouldn’t be in a rush to have her use it on me!  LOL

Hi, Glad Bacall feels better, it sucks to be sick. I’m not a good sick person. When I feel rotten I want everyone to leave me alone so I can die in peace.  

I get by in the kitchen thanks to my mom. She made us all learn how to follow a recipe and cook the basics. My husband is actually a better chef than I am so we cook together a lot. Its more fun that way, and it can get pretty interesting if one of us feels ‘frisky’. We’ve had dinner quite a bit later than planned more than once! 

LOL I have no idea what my BMI is, and don’t care. I have a few extra pounds on, but my husband doesn’t care, I don’t stress over it, and at this point in my life I don’t give a rats ass what anyone else thinks either. Skipping lunch to shop does help the waistline, but not the healthiest way to do it. I usually keep lunch to a salad and that keeps me going until dinner.

If I’m cooking I want it done without a lot of hassle, unless my husband is there too, then I don’t care how long it takes.  What’s in your Gumbo?  If its not bolted down, it probably goes into ours. We like to make it up and leave it in the fridge for a day. It lets all the flavors mix together, then reheat and eat. Grilling is hubby’s domain, but I know how to use it if needed. Wine is our beverage of choice while on kitchen duty. I haven’t drank much since college. I learned my lesson after a couple of parties where I over indulged and got into a bad situation. I was taken advantage of and they weren’t pleasant experiences.

On the subjects of smoking, drinking, and weight loss I had a discussion once about using spankings to help people break bad habits. I can imagine the sign over the clinic door:  WE CAN CURE ANYTHING!   LOL     

My take on adult spankings:  I agree, a lot of adults get spanked, but I meant they aren’t spanked like children against their will for wrong doing. A lot of adults, myself included, sometimes use infractions as a reason to be spanked, but only because we want to feel like we’re being disciplined. A lot probably do act out fantasy scenarios, but to me it seems too childish. Forget the role play, just let me say: “Hey, I messed up. Take your belt to my bare butt so I feel better about it.”